Being
a teen is hard, and it’s all too easy for teens to be too hard on
themselves. Here are some quick tips to help teens, particularly girls,
build self-confidence.
The teenage years can be turbulent ones, full of self-doubt and angst
at the outside world. It’s normal for things not always to be rosy, but
sometimes teens can use a little extra help in building their
self-confidence. Doing the things listed below won’t magically improve
a teen’s self-esteem – and a teenager with low self-confidence may have
trouble doing these things – but making the effort… to smile, to say no
in the face of opposition… is important. Acting self-confident is the
first step to feeling self-confident.
- Smiling. People like friendly people – it’s that simple. Plus, even a forced smile will lighten up a teen’s own bad mood.
- Good posture. Standing
tall not only helps improves how a teenager looks, but it helps a teen
feel more secure and puts less stress on the back and shoulders.
- Making eye contact. Sometimes
a teenager feels painfully shy, but their look says “Back off!” Meeting
another person’s gaze — whether it’s a cute guy or an interviewer -
lets them know a teen is approachable and confident.
- Being bold. Teens
have to be willing to put themselves out there – whether in front of
the class or at a party. It will get a little easier each time until
the teen starts wondering why being in public was ever a big deal.
- Going easy on themselves.
Nobody’s perfect, but when teenagers obsess about what’s “wrong” with
themselves, they don’t give anyone else a chance to notice all the
things that are great. Teens need to remember that almost
everyone feels insecure at some point (though not everyone lets on).
Self-confidence comes from being able to put a break on that nay-saying
voice and and moving on.
- Doing what they love.
Parents and teens do not always agree on what the priorities should be.
But as long as what a teen is doing is not dangerous, a parent should
find ways to support what a teen feels passionate about… or at least to
get out of the way and let the teen explore. What better boost to
self-esteem than being able to do something one cares about well?
- Preparing for things.
Procrastination is a teen’s favorite friend. But life is stressful
enough without teens tripping themselves up. It’s hard to feel
self-confident when things feel out of control. When teens give
themselves enough time to prepare for that big date, study for that
test, write that paper, etc., they find that things tend to go much
better and more simply.
- Being able to walk away, part 1.
Sometimes teens who lack self-esteem or have low self-confidence are
willing to put themselves in situations that they know aren’t good,
just to gain another person’s approval. Teenagers need to learn to stop
and trust their cautious side. Teens need to know they can always try
things like sex and drinking later, when it’s more appropriate, but if
they do something they regret, it can’t be done.
- Being able to walk away, part 2.
Some people only give someone the time of day if that person is doing
something for them. No teen should be willing to be a doormat. Sure, it
might lose them some friends, but those “friends” are not worth the
trouble.
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